tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post3367060319126493504..comments2023-09-06T02:35:01.994-07:00Comments on SutterInk: I'M NOT YOUR DARLING, ASSHOLEAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06050973510165942367noreply@blogger.comBlogger68125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-29836358434591073432011-08-21T22:56:30.522-07:002011-08-21T22:56:30.522-07:00Man, I really can't stand overly sensitive peo...Man, I really can't stand overly sensitive people. I love terms of endearment and think it's cute when strangers address me with such. Besides, darling is one of my favorite terms of endearment that is not used nearly enough.Aritulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01687717613812613840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-84513930813563276222011-02-05T07:37:39.656-08:002011-02-05T07:37:39.656-08:00I was in the finacial aid office trying to talk to...I was in the finacial aid office trying to talk to this really mean C you next Twatsday lady who took one look at my tattoos and assumed a instant High horse attitude with me so that started our conversation well.<br /><br />She then proceeded to talk to me like I was 4 and dissmissed anything i had to say and withing 5 mintues of everything that came outta my mouth seemed to just be wrong in every way to her, so by this time rather then prolong this meeting i said<br /><br />"Yes Ma'm" and did the just smiled and nod to move one to the next topic<br /><br />She looked at me like i just stood up and whipped out my dick and slapped her with it by calling this late 50sish woman Ma'm.<br /><br />I then felt like i had to APOLOGIZE because i was raised with respect and politeness.... all because she was offended by calling her Ma'm.<br /> Fuck you, Ronny Killer.A Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13503344200043828882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-84386496476504377262011-01-29T09:18:27.281-08:002011-01-29T09:18:27.281-08:00Some people just like to be offended. It only mak...Some people just like to be offended. It only makes me mad to be called darling, sweetheart or baby, if there's obvious sarcasm behind it. Other than that, generic terms of endearment are fine with me.<br />And I love it when waitresses call me hon, especially if they're bringing me pie. Maybe if you handed her a slice of pie when calling her darling, she wouldn't have taken offense.<br /><br />I call all kids under the age of 4 pumpkin and all drag queens honey or girl.hissyfit64https://www.blogger.com/profile/18148776536346417143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-91311987782021035482011-01-27T14:06:05.908-08:002011-01-27T14:06:05.908-08:00Well, maybe she had you confused with another tele...Well, maybe she had you confused with another television writer and thought you were responsible for the final wretched season of Veronica Mars? (Veronica / Ronnie?) Too much of a stretch?<br /><br />Hopefully she was just having a bad day and over-reacting.LawMommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17772740759391002766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-7289776140397636052011-01-25T11:27:34.838-08:002011-01-25T11:27:34.838-08:00Having been born and raised in Texas, as you have ...Having been born and raised in Texas, as you have seen already, it is quite common here. My older sister and I lived together during our college years and she could have easily been the lady with the towel. I, on the other hand, don't mind a 'darlin', 'sweetie', 'honey' at all. I had to curb my own use of these terms while my sister and I lived together, but I find that as I grow older and more distant from those college days, I use the terms more and more once again. Though, I do reserve the term for the free world. I work in a maximum security all male prison as an officer and I don't think making use of those terms would be fitting in the least. Fuck you, Ronny Killer! usually works well in that situation ;)Louiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08812895673958908198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-52358923479760261592011-01-21T00:09:48.261-08:002011-01-21T00:09:48.261-08:00I don't think it's just a Jersey thing. I...I don't think it's just a Jersey thing. I'm from Texas, and don't go a day without being called sweetheart (by men or women), and I have noticed, I have picked up the same habit. It doesn't bother me when someone calls me that. I always think Darling, Sweetheart or Honey is way better than "Hey, bitch", right?! Also, in Texas, I have noticed that women who don't particularly like each other, but don't want to really be outwardly hostile toward one another tend to call each other Honey. It's just a thing. We all do it. Taking it too personally is a little ridiculous. I have a way longer list of better things to take personally.SmallTownTexasWomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06588714850207656770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-7474964170780389682011-01-20T10:21:31.560-08:002011-01-20T10:21:31.560-08:00The funny thing about situations like this is you ...The funny thing about situations like this is you will forget what she looked like. You will forget what you were doing and what you dropped. You will forget where you were and when it was. But you will never forget "Fuck You Ronny Killer". It's the little things in life ya know...Jon Wnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-86237477491479170592011-01-18T17:46:25.454-08:002011-01-18T17:46:25.454-08:00Well I'm a 30 year old woman who lives 15 minu...Well I'm a 30 year old woman who lives 15 minutes from where you grew up. I can't even count how many times I'm called something other then my name at my job, and most of the patients have known me for years. Its just a Jersey guy thing (don't see it in woman all that much) Sweetie, honey, darling. It's just how it is. I guess you have to be raised here to appreciate it. Its just as Jersey as a group of your friends screaming OHHHHH!! When someone says something out of line. Don't worry about the dumb broad she will get over it :)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04736069791843699239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-36509185317281766882011-01-18T07:30:41.326-08:002011-01-18T07:30:41.326-08:00I can't stop laughing. Although I am not towe...I can't stop laughing. Although I am not towel finder, I get it. <br /><br />I picture "Gemma" (the character) and think, if I was a male, which I am not, I would never attempt to call her BABE or Darling. <br /><br />Some strong women don't like the terms of endearment. In my 20s, I would have told you off like she did. As I get older, (closer to 40s), I am more apt to realize the world isn't all about me, and I would laugh it off. <br /><br />Just another bitch perspective!Kimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09809873313644835527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-66051470285640076402011-01-17T10:33:45.197-08:002011-01-17T10:33:45.197-08:00Ugh. I'm so with ya! I'm from Philly and...Ugh. I'm so with ya! I'm from Philly and I call my students "doll" all the time. The boys get really offended and say "I'm not a doll!" LMAO. Oh well I I just can't help myself. <br />Congrats to Katey on her Golden Globe! I just started watching it this season and SOA is badass. I do however think that you NEED to get Don Swayze on there. Did you see him in True Blood. Holy crap! I didn't even know Patrick had a brother. He is badass! Have a nice day doll;) LOLCocoChahellnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-71622191334594968402011-01-17T10:08:17.491-08:002011-01-17T10:08:17.491-08:00I once was called "sweetpea" and read th...I once was called "sweetpea" and read the guy the riot act but when another guy called me "baby doll" I melted into a puddle of sweetness. The difference was that Mr. Sweetpea was an asshole and Mr. Babydoll was someone I liked. As to complete strangers, I guess it's all in the tone you use. Also, if the guy is a lot younger or something, you might be offended that he was giving you some weird vibe like you were a sweet old dear or something. What I expect happened in your case is that you caught this gal (wouldn't she LOVE me calling her THAT!) at a low ebb in her self-esteem and she lashed out at you. She believes she's nobody's darling and so in her mind, you could only have meant it as a slight. Sad. If you'd said it to me, I might have been flustered, but it would have made my day. Reminds me of my favorite Beatles' quote, "Don't you know that it's a fool who plays it cool but making this world a little colder?" Keep spreading the love, babe.Denise Sheltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03907766365555697410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-3390358002085721552011-01-15T06:33:03.463-08:002011-01-15T06:33:03.463-08:00I deal with truck drivers on a daily basis. Hell,...I deal with truck drivers on a daily basis. Hell, I call them darling, sunshine, trouble, sweetie or whatever I can think of at the time. I don't know their names.. male & female.. its just something to make someone smile. I also used to bartend, and I got called dear, honey and even so not such nice names. Big f'n deal. So Kurt keep on using dearAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-31548664588154239902011-01-14T04:37:09.515-08:002011-01-14T04:37:09.515-08:00I agree with most here that a little nic-name isn&...I agree with most here that a little nic-name isn't a problem. I have fallen in the habit myself, I'm afraid, sometimes. I've tried to instill the "sir" & "ma'am" in my 2 sons. <br /><br />My granddad was from Manchester, England & used to call me "Duck" or "Ducky". Since he died in '90, noone has called me that since. What I would give for him to call me that again...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-16102485990856373752011-01-12T14:09:23.923-08:002011-01-12T14:09:23.923-08:00I am behind on my reading of your posts so this is...I am behind on my reading of your posts so this is a catch up. I too am horrible with names and I think Darling babe ect is better than hey you... Besides I recently watched the first season of SOA for the 20th+ time. I would not mind you calling my darling either you are very handsome! If you let one word define your self awarness or self esteme you have bigger issues! Now Season three was Brilliant!!! I have re-watched it trying to figure out how I missed that the rest of the club knew all along what Jax's was doing! If you were unable to follow season three perhaps some of the several TV judge programs would be your speed. I would love to sit and have a conversation with people from different walks of life. I find myself complaining about all my troubles then I have to step back and remind myself there are other people in the world!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-81196879722863385922011-01-11T11:51:47.651-08:002011-01-11T11:51:47.651-08:00Some women just have something to prove - and it&#...Some women just have something to prove - and it's their misfortune to be so hard and angry. Come on to North Carolina, Kurt, where we say things like "sweetie" and "honey" all the time - even the most educated of us! I promise you'll not get that kind of reaction from a Southern belle.<br /><br />Dr. AngelaDr. Angienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-13934633072729081512011-01-11T11:18:40.996-08:002011-01-11T11:18:40.996-08:00I have to say that I think her response was clearl...I have to say that I think her response was clearly disproportionate to the 'offensive' term. I too use terms of endearment when speaking to people, not because I'm bad with names and not because I'm from Jersey (because I'm not) but because I just do.... most people think it's sweet. I think it's sweet. <br />I have to say if the choices are "Thank you, Ma'am" or "Thank you, Darling" I'd be THRILLED to hear Darling. Ma'am makes me feel old....and nobody wants to feel old.Qweeniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15546348007812238505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-44530291084584636622011-01-10T04:43:47.699-08:002011-01-10T04:43:47.699-08:00Wow, I do the same thing as you all the time.
I...Wow, I do the same thing as you all the time.<br />I'm a sales rep and you'd think being in sales I'd be better with names, but sadly I'm not - faces I'm good with though. Personally I blame my poor memory on the '70's!<br />But I've never got my ass chewed for using the term baby, darlin, or honey - though the wife has given me shit a couple of times about calling some of the women I know baby!<br />I could see you using this for Jacs on SOASadltrmphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409940216554858475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-83660456447094042392011-01-09T18:28:18.039-08:002011-01-09T18:28:18.039-08:00Wow! What have she said, if you stepped on her toe...Wow! What have she said, if you stepped on her toes? <br /><br />My belief, too many people are stupid!trapperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04826968858613559253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-90735921073345192592011-01-09T15:28:20.222-08:002011-01-09T15:28:20.222-08:00One of the nicest guys I've ever met has a rea...One of the nicest guys I've ever met has a really short memory for names, and he once explained to me that he dealt with this by addressing all men Big Guy and all women as "Darlin' " He's been doing this since he was in his early '20's and has never prevented him from being a beloved figure, anywhere he went.<br /><br />I say if you are not doing so to be condescending or creepy (it WAS darling of her give you your towel back - less so to call you an asshole,) your language was well within the realm of civilized discourse.<br /><br />keep the faith, BabeMJBlognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-68733010345893419182011-01-09T13:05:48.312-08:002011-01-09T13:05:48.312-08:00Looks like a lot of people are in your corner on t...Looks like a lot of people are in your corner on this one, my friend. I grew up on the Yankee side off the Mason -Dixon line. Some of us Southern Hoosiers tend to speak in a Southern drawl, and think nothin' bout dropping' an all y'all to a group or referrin' to someone as darlin' or hun. I was also brought up to respectfully refer to folks as mister, mrs, miss, sir or ma'am unless given permission to do otherwise. <br /><br />Too many people get hung up on titles and the idea if bein' dissed. Once upon a time, while in a group of people of differin' ethnic backgrounds in the workplace, I let slip with an innocent "all y'all" (plural of y'all). Next thing I knew, I was sent to a diversity appreciation class! <br /><br />It could've been worse . She's just an ass. Gives donkeys a bad name.Indianacat aka lowecat on twitternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-47235689220660873952011-01-08T19:27:02.846-08:002011-01-08T19:27:02.846-08:00I'm going to be the devil's advocate here....I'm going to be the devil's advocate here. I agree that this woman acted a little harshly towards her being called darling, but what if that name brings back bad memories? What if her dad abused her and he called her darling? Or what if she was raped and her rapist called her darling? I repeat that her reaction was a little harsh, but maybe you should put yourself in her position.lmhv92noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-32776903380542433562011-01-08T15:55:44.442-08:002011-01-08T15:55:44.442-08:00I just love you . . . that's all. By the way,...I just love you . . . that's all. By the way, I'm 66 & not skinny, but I'd at least pick up your towel for ya!grammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09507027149027398504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-21511664192208046482011-01-08T14:55:03.783-08:002011-01-08T14:55:03.783-08:00She should have just let it go. Some people are re...She should have just let it go. Some people are really uptight about those things. I have had men I don't know call me darling, sweetheart and I did not care for it, but I did not lash out and use profanity--because, as in your case, they were people I was not going to see again.Tempesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14886859669478196071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-16744207704121504122011-01-08T12:37:21.662-08:002011-01-08T12:37:21.662-08:00I would not mind if you called me darlin'. I&...I would not mind if you called me darlin'. I'm just sayin'.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6108759479938339169.post-4359523350005538572011-01-08T09:49:39.518-08:002011-01-08T09:49:39.518-08:00I think she was angry with herself for wanting you...I think she was angry with herself for wanting you. You are pretty hot, there, daddy.Wandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06979288002368294751noreply@blogger.com